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The invisible wall preventing ever putting the first step towards my dreams ...

3 months ago | Reflections

There are an arrays of blog posts and articles waiting to be published on my desk, but till I have them finished and finalized to some satisfying degree, let me write about things that are less serious or better said, perhaps you have heard them elsewhere too, so there is no need to be too careful about what I'm saying and what I'm not saying and how I'm doing it.

We need to accept this reality, wake up and understand that we are not entitled to a seat at the table, we earn credibility and respect with hard work.

Actually, the fact that hard works bears fruit is so ordinary, so ordinary that often people who are so eager to be successful forget it, they forget it so much that it even ended up in closing notes of Paul Graham's top 18 mistakes that kill startups

If that's true, most startups that could succeed fail because the founders don't devote their whole efforts to them. That certainly accords with what I see out in the world. Most startups fail because they don't make something people want, and the reason most don't is that they don't try hard enough.

In other words, starting startups is just like everything else. The biggest mistake you can make is not to try hard enough. To the extent there's a secret to success, it's not to be in denial about that.

I don't believe in dreaming beyond your limits, nor do I believe all wishes and desires are as good as they appear once they pop up in your mind or heart, but I do agree with the secret that Paul Graham touches upon.

Over the years, I've gained some insight about myself, something that made me behaved differently ... I usually stop at the beginning of things I wished to do with my life, after months of contemplating and planning and imagining how the very last stage of the product should look like, this was so deep, that others would comment on me being someone who doesn't start things.

Now I know very clearly where everything comes from, each time I wish to start doing something that resonates with the core values and purpose of my life and what would make me happy, there is this wall of all the times I received humiliating comments from my parents and environment for even trying to be successful in something ...

I guess that it's an idea I borrowed from Experience Renegotiation methodology introduced by Peter A. Levine & Ann Frederick in Waking the Tiger, nowadays, when I hit this invisible wall hindering me moving any step towards what I wish, the best thing that I found helpful for me is to take an hour, or half an hour off and imagine myself with my parents and everything and recreate their responses to first understand what is it that is holding me back, and after I have access to those interactions, I try to imagine a scene where I feel to belong to and I'm doing what I want to do without receiving those humiliating remarks ...

PS. Thank you for your interest in following what I'm up to, I hope [some] works at Lost Ideas Lab change your life for the better ...